#sopefulday

"Appreciate your parents"

When i first saw the event on btsforcharity twitter page, i liked and RT then minutes later filled the form to register as volunteer.
After few days, i rethink bout my decision. Am i ready to show myself in public as a fangirl?
Due to circumstances, i need to stay with my mom instead so i emailed them to cancel my registration.

But 3 days before the event, my sister said she could stay with my mom and let me to join the event. But to be honest, no one knows the event is actually BTS related...not my usually religious programme. Or else, they might not let me go or at least give me some kind of look.

So at the end, i joined the event. And it's not that bad. No matter how crazy fangirls we are in kpop stan twitter, malaysian girls in real life are well-behaved and all lady-like lol ^^

I was the second volunteer to arrive and the admins asked us to go inside first to talk with the elders. First i met Makcik Azizah, we had a little of introduction then i moved to the next room and met Makcik Hazan(?) she's a nice person to talk to but since she had a stroke on half of her body so she has difficulty to speak what's her mind want to. Still, it's nice to talk with her.

Then the admins called us to gather as most of the volunteers already arrived and we had short welcoming speech by the admins and the owner of the place, Kak Linda. A bit of do and don't which basically i have listened to since this was my second time here. I went there on November last year with my kids.
We took a group photo after that then proceeded with the activities according to the groups. One group (me included) went inside to talk with the elders, another group cleaned the place while the admins did the mural. It was around 11am when we started the activities so we got 30 minutes before the their lunch time.

I went inside again and this time met Makcik Asma who i talked the most with for the rest of the day. We basically listened to her stories from her birthplace, workplace, how she worked as technician started from zero, learning from her employer at pkns shah alam, how she met her company's partner from Japan and German, how she learnt those languages, her english is good too, also how her family background consisted of royal family in Negeri Sembilan when her grandmother's sister married to the prince, how she went inside the palace when she was young. Mind you i'm not a good listener but actually listened to her attentively cause she is a good story-teller. She gave a lot of good advices as well.

(This translated to English but her advices related to either chasing our dreams as well as be a nice person)
"Always believe in yourselves and grab the chance to have a better life"
"You're a great daughter, may God bless you and give u a better future"
"Read surah yusuf and yunus...yusuf so u gain tranquility and yunus so u be loved by many"

I was talking with her while accompany by another person, the one who came first before me but didnt get to know her yet. Later we went outside to have our lunch. So i started talking to her, Aisyah which i found out that she is a year older than me. I thought i was the oldest so we were like highfived each other to be around the same age cause the others are 16~24 years old. We got along pretty well by then. A guy suddenly started talking with us, asking where are we from. He thought we were from the same school/university and i was like "we never know each other, internet brings us together" in fact BTS is but he would not understand haha. I even showed him the banner of the organizer BTSforCharity but again, BTS makes no sense to him. Then he started to talk bout his wife's uncle who they decided to send to the house.

Sending parents to elderly homes is a taboo here in Malaysia because most of the cases people do that since they cannot take care of their parents or worse dun even want to, like totally decide to abandon their own parents. One of the don't is asking the elders how they ended up being in that house unless they themselves want to talk bout that. Makcik Asma' didnt mention how she came into the house so we didnt ask. But this guy talked to us, how badly his wife's uncle being swindled by his stepson where the stepson sold his house and never give anything back to him and let alone leave him. So ended up the guy need to take care of him but he said how long he should be the one to do that. He's a nice guy with kopiah on his head and talked nicely too but i know deep inside, he was also, cannot bare taking care of someone especially not his own blood. So later they left.

The uncle cannot stay still more than 10 minutes and keep wanting to get out of the house. We managed to bring him few times but somehow he still wanted to go out, one of the worker tried to stop him but he got himself a stone so the worker backed off. He walked straight to the main road. I didn't follow or did anything. At last they managed to bring him again but later he was crying badly on the sofa. Honestly, it was devastated thinking bout the situation. But there's no one to be directly blamed at.
Even myself, taking care of my own mother take a lot of patience, it scares me. As the children we somehow get ourselves busy especially when we get our own family that we ignored the parents. We forget that the parents are the one who taking care of us when we were little, of course they struggled but not like we were abandoned from the family.

That's why in the Holy Quran itself, there are many verses talking bout how children should behave around parents while only once stated bout how parents should treat their kids. Because afterall it is natural (fitrah) for parents to love and take care of their children but it is hard for kids to appreciate and love their parents as the same except those events of throwing away offsprings because of sex outside marriage.

So moving on, it was zuhur time. I took ablution in the toilet outside then went into the prayer room but too late for jamaah prayer with the uncles. We prayed jamaah among ourselves. I went out after that for awhile and came back inside to see Aisyah with the others sitting in a circle so i joined in while asking are we having usrah now? And one of the girls said i supposed to be the naqibah and the topic is BTS. I snorted.

We were asked to accompany the elders again and so i continued talking with Makcik Asma' but soon enough it was already 2.30pm and we need to write a letter for the elders. Ofc i wrote for Makcik Asma' since i talked to her the whole time. We sent the letters personally to the one we wrote on and gathered again for the last time. A short closing speech and quick ice breaking between the admins and the volunteers. I managed to exchange numbers with Aisyah. We also got a token of appreciation, a collection of photocards of our beloved BTS ofc and super ring :p
We then took another group photo in front the finished piece of the mural. The mural's so pretty ♡ we said farewell to each other and i went back home.

Will this be the last time i join this kind of event? Most probably not. It is for a great cause and meeting fellow armys while talking bout life (not just who's ur bias and all) is pretty decent and nice feeling to experience.

So i would like to shout a big thank you for BTSforcharity and their co-partners for the event; JhopeMALAYSIA_ and MinSuga_MY
Thank you for a great event and see you again :)